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She’s to fat

April 29, 2012   Filed Under: Body Image, Boys, Friends, Personal   628 words

One of the things that annoys me and makes me very angry is disrespect toward girls, mainly from guys. I hate when guys call girls “fat” or “ugly” because it’s really just not right. Even if they are not attractive to some people, guys have no right to call them names. Also I hate it when guys rate girls and constantly rate some girls as ugly. I sat at an all guys table freshman year and that is what some of the guys would do. There was one girl, that had a crush on one of the guys, and they would just call her ugly under their breaths.

These names are disrespectful. A lot of girls have insecurities about personal topics like this. Although I don’t have many body image problems, I know a lot of girls who do. They want to impress guys, but how could they when guys call them fat.. ugly… etc? This contributes to the overwhelming cases of eating disorders and depressions. A lot of people think that it’s because of the media and the magazines. I actually think a big part of it is because of what people say about each other.

So just like all my blogs, I don’t just come up with this out of the top of my head to blog about. Yesterday night around 1 a.m. I was on twitter reading an disagreement between one of my friends and this other boy (who was my friend). We’ll call my friend, a girl, Emily and the boy Johnny. We all use to be friends when we went on a mission trip last year. Johnny use to be very religious. Anyway he posted on twitter about not believing in a God and called Jesus a zombie. I respected his options but Emily didn’t really like how he was insulting every Christian, especially since he use to be one. So they get into an argument and one of Johnny’s friends jokingly said that they would eventually hook up. Johnny disagreed and said he’ll probably go after another church girl.
He said on twitter (exact words):
“I’m thinking about (girls name he was taking about. It was another girl, not Emily or I)…she’s always been into that shit. Jk she’s to fat”

I couldn’t believed he would say that. 1) The girl he called fat and him use to be really good friends. 2) She is a little on the heavier side but def. not fat. 3) It was just rude and mean. I couldn’t believe he said that. I thought that was going to far, attacking someone and making fun of the way someone looks. I started tweeting how much I hated when guys disrespect girls toward him and call them fat. Also how he would like it if he was picked on for his insecurities and the shit that goes on in his life. I just couldn’t believe how much of a hypocrite he was. He is always so negative about his life and says he has so much “shit” going on, but doesn’t realize he hurts other people. I decided to become the better person and stopped answering him when he was trying to provoke a twitter argument. I just wanted to get my point across and say that it’s not right to disrespect girls. I don’t think the message stuck with him. All he said in response was “boohoo” and “I don’t have insecurities, try to find some for me”.

Maybe I am overreacting, but stuff like this should not be tolerated. If I was the girl and I read the tweet, I would be so furious. I know her, and I know weight is an insecurity of hers. I just hate how much Johnny can be an asshole.